princessTATTOO wrote:I was bought up with parents who do not talk about emotions. As a 4 year old being upset by whatever being told to stop crying immediately is not the answer. We are trained from children to force down what we are feeling for no other reason for what i assume to be an unwillingness to learn and cope with emotions of other people because we simply refuse to address our own emotions resulting in a vicious cycle. I certainly won't be bringing my daughter up to suppress anything she is feeling but instead to own it and understand it. We feel for a reason. And sometimes we just need to be told 'It's OK to feel like this' and lets face it, it really IS ok to feel shitty. Often it's a chain reaction to anothers words and/or actions and we instead supress what we really want to do (like wail in the street because we have lost a loved one) and let it build up into a big ugly long dark black dog fog that eats away at us every day.
Also... I have no idea where that came from but my fingers started typing so I went with it lol